The American Thinker: America is running out of Americans

A scathing review of our culture: children were once understood as part of adulthood rather than an interruption of it, but no longer, The American Thinker writes.

America has developed an extraordinary talent for discussing symptoms while politely avoiding diseases. We debate Social Security solvency, labor shortages, school enrollment, housing, immigration, economic growth, loneliness, and the deterioration of communities as though these phenomena occupy separate universes. Beneath many of them sits an uncomfortable demographic reality: Americans are having fewer children, having them later, or deciding not to have them at all. Conservatives frequently respond with the predictable admonition to marry and reproduce, while progressives often treat declining fertility as either economically inevitable or environmentally beneficial. Both responses strike me as inadequate because the interesting question is not simply why Americans are having fewer children. The question is what happened to a civilization in which creating the next generation increasingly feels irrational?

Children were once understood as part of adulthood rather than an interruption of it. Marriage, family, work, faith, community, and responsibility formed a reasonably coherent architecture through which people understood a meaningful life. That architecture has fractured. Modern America increasingly presents adulthood as an indefinite project of personal optimization: acquire credentials, build a career, travel, accumulate experiences, establish financial security, discover yourself, heal yourself, protect your peace, and perhaps eventually consider another human being sufficiently compatible to share the remaining decades. Children enter this worldview almost as an inconvenient footnote because children are the antithesis of radical autonomy. They require sacrifice, permanence, patience, money, sleep, compromise, and the horrifying realization that the universe no longer revolves around you.

Raising children is difficult, expensive, exhausting, and occasionally terrifying. Conservatives lose credibility when we reduce declining fertility to selfish millennials refusing to grow up. Housing costs are real. Childcare is expensive. Healthcare can be financially punishing. Young adults often begin their working lives carrying substantial debt while confronting a housing market that makes previous generations’ experiences seem almost mythological. Telling a 29-year-old couple to “just have children” while they are calculating whether they can afford another bedroom is not a family policy. It is a slogan.

Yet economics cannot explain everything. Human beings throughout history produced children under conditions considerably harsher than ours. Something cultural has changed as well, and conservatives should be willing to say it. We have spent decades dismantling institutions that once encouraged permanence while constructing a culture that worships optionality. Marriage becomes one lifestyle choice among many. Sex becomes recreation detached from reproduction. Divorce becomes ordinary. Pornography industrializes fantasy. Dating applications convert human beings into endlessly scrollable commodities, creating the illusion that someone slightly better is always one swipe away. Men and women increasingly discuss one another not as potential partners but as opposing interest groups negotiating terms of surrender.

Then we wonder why nobody wants to build a family. The deterioration of relations between men and women may be one of the least seriously examined components of America’s demographic problem. Much of contemporary discourse teaches women to view dependence upon men as dangerous and men to view commitment to women as financially or emotionally hazardous. Online cultures amplify every betrayal, divorce catastrophe, abusive relationship, custody battle, infidelity, and miserable marriage until young people understandably conclude that matrimony resembles an elaborate legal ambush. The sexes retreat into mutually reinforcing camps, each possessing algorithms dedicated to explaining why the other cannot be trusted.

Civilizations cannot reproduce themselves through mutual contempt. A healthy society must teach people that freedom is not merely the absence of obligation. There is another freedom that emerges through obligation: the freedom created by knowing who you are responsible for, where you belong, and what deserves your sacrifice. Modern culture excels at liberation from things and is considerably less articulate about devotion to things.

Immigration complicates this discussion because America has historically supplemented its population through newcomers. Immigration can strengthen a nation when newcomers enter an identifiable national culture and assimilate into it, but immigration cannot permanently substitute for a civilization’s unwillingness to reproduce itself. A country that requires perpetual population importation because its own citizens have lost confidence in creating families has a deeper problem than labor supply.

That is why declining fertility should concern conservatives beyond economics. Something has happened to our conception of adulthood, sacrifice, permanence, and hope. We have become wealthier than most civilizations in human history while increasingly convincing ourselves that the fundamental act through which civilization continues is prohibitively burdensome.

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